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Girl Talk 2011 - Tobi Hill-Meyer
Tobi addresses the similarities between transmisogyny and femmephobia from her perspective as a butch trans woman, and explains the mutual ally relationship that she has formed with the cis femme women in her life.

O.M.F.G.

I have never loved a video this much. ever.

You NEED TO WATCH THIS ENTIRE THING. It is long, but so SO worth it.

I know that I was just complaining about how everything having to do with femmes is always seen froma butch perspective, but Tobi does an incredible job speaking on her own experiences of transphobia and relaying them to her deep bonds with femmes.

Seriously, watch this.

And Tobi - I am in love with you. If you are ever in WI we need to have lots of coffee.

“Despite the fear of masculine energy coming from trans women, it’s not hard to see instances where masculinity is highly valued in queer women’s community. Masculinity is assumed to be intense and powerful. Trans men are radical and hip. Butch women are transgressive and daring. Masculinity is hot. Masculinity is attractive. Those who are femme are seen as conformists to traditional trappings of something fake and superficial. Supposedly ignorantly laboring under a false consciousness and incapable of being effective activists.”

“I was once with a group of butches who were trying to explain that they didn’t get privilege for being butches. And they compared their experiences to gender conforming people, and talked about all the messed up treatment they received for being butch. The point I made was that they weren’t being treated that way for being masculine, but for being gender non-conforming. And they just couldn’t see the distinction because they only experienced the two at the same time. However, if they were to compare their experience to someone who was gender nonconforming and feminine, well, it would be a lot harder to say that masculinity isn’t privileged in our society.”

definitely worth watching.

“many of the cis femmes I have talked with have expressed that at one point or another their frustration with having their status as queer women being dismissed, invalidated or ignored because they don’t look queer” or must be dressing that way to attract men”.

I am sobbing because this is actually my life.

this whole thing is so important.

just need hugs from all my sisters.